Initial comment by @juegawdu was deleted. This is what they said:
Um, I kinda want to post a comment here because I've reading some of your opinions. I feel like you are trying to appeal to the anti trans people that are out there these days in USA, and it's not a bad move, you took inspiration on Oli London, the guy you retweeted on Twitter, he gained popularity through social media by doing some freaky things and, when he got enough spotlight, he started selling books about anti transexuality to profit from these people. You didn't gain popularity with your music these years, but you had a bad experience with people defending trans people, so you started talking about it and gaining some anti trans followers, thinking that you could monetize from them in the future. Trans people are a good topic to bully or being against it because not so many people are trans, and you can tell the people that are not trans that they show themselves naked to minors and that they are taking advantage from cis women in sports (when sports competitions are not fair and equal to begin with, but that's other topic). I find kinda smart but stupid at the same time that you only mention trans women and talk only about feminity. It is dumb because you ignore the other part, the masculinity that can be done and it is done by female human beings. You see feminity as a weak and dangerous thing that will end up in distopy to the world, and that is kinda misogynistic, don't you think? Madonna said this some time ago in her song What It Feels Like For a Girl: Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short, wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy. But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, 'cause you think that being a girl is degrading. This lyrics reminds me of what you said about Dylan in this article. I'm forgeting things that I wanted to write in this comment, but I will comment those in your future posts here if I remember them. I like your music and your looks, that's why I followed you some time ago, but if you are moving to be a YouTube poster instead of a musician, I will stop following and just listen to your music. Time will tell, but it is sad to lose an artist, but if you don't get money from it, it is understandable. To finish this comment (broken in the middle because I forgot some things that I wanted to write), I wanted to say that you are able talk about these things and to be offended, you see that you can write these posts, you are not censored, but people can not invite you to their music festivals or shows (I don't know what was the place that you went before) because of what you say in your social media about trans people, and it is to protect the trans, LGBT+, and the audience in general. As a feminine male, I wouldn't attend a show of a person that thinks that I'm a degenerate, weak person, dangerous person or whatever bad thing (this is just an example). Good luck with all, I will read your future posts and if I remember the other things that I wanted to say, I will say them in my future comments.
Hi there. I am unsure if you are a bot, because the comment was very confusing and run-off-esque, but just in case you are not a bot, I am responding because I value your opinion and perspective. I also take my articles very seriously even though I can be often sarcastic and I use analogies and satire to make the writing pieces more interesting. Firstly, thank you for listening to my music. I can assure you that I will always be an artist/musician over being a ‘YouTube poster.’ I am not sure what you mean by this either, but if I can make an assumption, you are meaning a musician that posts just for clout. If you have been following me for some time you surely are aware that I am not like that, especially given my very humble small following overall. I do not crave attention in that way. I actually dislike social media to my core and that is why I am perceived as a less successful artist in 2024 unfortunately since the numbers game matters most in this industry. I never ‘blew up’ or vent ‘viral.’
You feel I am appealing to the anti trans people in the USA. I appeal to people with common sense. All walks of life with common sense. Most of all, I appeal to women. I do not use the term cis. I believe in truth and common sense. I never took any real inspiration from Oli London. During that time, I came across their tweets and liked what they were saying and used that as a retweet. That being said, I don't believe what Oli London does or says necessarily 100%. To be honest, I don’t actually believe anybody 100%. I like to think for myself, review different opinions and facts, and then come to my own conclusions.
You said that I didn’t gain popularity with my music in recent years. I would actually disagree. The growth is small, but the growth is there. I am unsigned, I do not have financial support, and I do the best that I can. I have received few but major press opportunities and have been platformed to a certain degree. My music has been on the radio, and people are starting to know who I am in random public spaces. Fans voluntarily have made fan pages on social media and my Google SEO is great in my opinion. I am proud of my accomplishments and I am grateful for my listeners and small fandom. I had a bad experience with certain people who claim to be defending trans people because instead of having a discussion with me, they chose to cancel me and slander my name. The people who did this were 95% male and in the music scene. This is very telling if you think about it. You know well that women have always struggled in the music industry. It was made clear to me that as a woman I am still not entitled to an opinion and I am not entitled to defend women either. Let's be very clear: I never said trans people should not exist. I said in many different ways that women should not have their spaces invaded by men and men should not steal women’s roles. Furthermore, men are men and women are women. I believe in the natural biological differences such as reproductive anatomy and the significant hormonal differences between the two, regardless of who they chose to sleep with. In my personal life I am acquainted and I am friends with people who transitioned and are in the process, and they agree with my stance too. Would you say their opinions are not valid as trans people? In addition, I grew up with and still currently have gay friends. In particular, one of my friends does drag in The Netherlands and they as well fully stand by me. Do all of these people in the LGBTQ+ community not matter? Redeeming myself here is not the point, my point is that I have noticed that even people who are literally in the community are tired of the gaslighting and lies too.
It will be hard for me to monetize off of an “anti trans” following. You are suggesting that this is what I am doing. If the music industry, and most specifically the Canadian music industry is extremely ‘woke,’ they will go above and beyond to blacklist/boycott/cancel whatever you want to call it because they don’t like what I have to say. They will continue to not provide me a platform which is preventing my growth as an artist. Also, here in Canada we have strict censorship laws on social media. All of my articles and posts are being shadowbanned when I discuss these issues and topics. My meaningless selfies get more exposure. It is unclear to me at this stage of my music career how I will profit off of telling the truth.
You mentioned that trans people are a good topic to bully or to be against because not so many people are trans. About 0.5-1% of the population has gender dysphoria (I will let you research the term) and the rest, well, it's a social and cultural epidemic and trend. Similar to the cutting/anorexia wave that happened in the 90s/early 2000s. I fell victim to this by the way and I can empathize and I do not wish to go into more detail. I fail to see your point. To be completely honest, I am not here to bully the trans community and I don't believe anyone really is. Stating facts and truth is not bullying. For example, I, as a biological woman, do not want to see a biological man in the public washroom or changing room. Also, I do not want to see a man flailing around tampons and bras because it's cute. It's not cute. It's stupid. When I have children, if I have a little girl I do not want a naked man walking around here if she goes to a public swimming pool and uses the restroom. Same for if I have a little boy. I would not want a naked woman walking around him. This is simple common sense. You also said that sports in general are unfair. Okay, so why are we making it even more unfair by adding men to compete against women. I use this example more because men are physically stronger than women and are more of a threat. It would be silly to complain about a man fighting against a woman if the woman voluntarily seeks defeat which is not as often the case.
Basically I mention trans women a lot more because I am a woman and I am more affected by trans women. It's not smart nor stupid, it's just what I felt like writing about more. As you know I am a music artist and not a professional journalist or politician. This Substack is about my personal experiences. You said “It is dumb because you ignore the other part, the masculinity that can be done and it is done by female human beings.” Please, if you're interested, elaborate because I didn't understand this sentence.
Also, if you’re interested, please elaborate on your comment “You see femininity as a weak and dangerous thing that will end up in distopy to the world, and that is kinda misogynistic, don't you think?” I don’t see where I said femininity is a weakness and I don’t understand the rest of the sentence.
Finally, you brought up Madonna’s lyrics: “Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short, wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy. But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, 'cause you think that being a girl is degrading” and said it reminds you of what I said about Dylan Mulvaney. I don’t know how this is relevant to anything I’ve ever written or said. Do you truly believe Dylan Mulvaney simply wants to wear a dress and heels and just be accepted? Or do you think there is something darker beneath it all. I am allowing you a space to share your thoughts and opinions. I'd like you to convince me what is so empowering about a figure like Dylan Mulvaney?
Yes, I can write all the Substack posts I want thankfully. Unfortunately, I will continue to not be platformed and not be a part of the Canadian music industry because my views are in alignment with common sense and sticking up for women. It doesn't actually protect the LGBTQ+ community because this may be shocking to you, but a majority of my fans are part of the LGBTQ+ community and everyday they ask me to perform at pride and I can’t because I get declined. What pride used to mean many years ago is very different today. We are entering dangerous propaganda territory. A lot of people in the LGBTQ+ community want women to be heard, want to protect women, want to be treated equally and fairly, and don’t approve of under age kids and teens transitioning, being harmed and the stereotypes and exploitation of the gay and lesbian people. This is a topic I am not interested in diving further into but these people are being ignored. Some of my fans who are gay call me the new gay icon and wish I had more exposure.
I don’t know who you are if you are not a bot, but I wouldn’t think you’re a degenerate or weak just because you are a more feminine male. I wouldn’t consider you dangerous unless you are deliberately harming people.
Thank you, I didn't know my comment was deleted. No, I'm not a bot. I don't know who Dylan is, and I don't wanna know haha.
Cis is a person who identifies with the sex given at birth.
People can change a little bit their sex with hormone replacement, and can identify with other sex that is not the one that doctors and society (or biology) said. Denying transexuality is transphobia, literally the meaning, you don't necessarily need to kill them or tell to kill them to be one.
Common sense could be transphobia because not everyone is trans and not everyone knows what is transexuality, but common does not mean good or correct.
I wrote about Madonna's lyrics and femininity and masculinity because this topic and because I read your article where you say: ``other men to be hyper feminine so that the people can be physically and mentally weaker´´ and other things that I don't find right now. What I meant was that you say that because it is thought that being feminine or a woman is bad (or weaker or distopic), and don't mention trans men because being masculine or a man is seen good. I don't know your true intentions or beliefs because I'm not on your mind.
The topic about bathrooms separated by sex is a whole topic that I don't like, but the society made those to avoid problems and to prevent potential crimes because people are usually heterosexual.
LGBTQ+ community has the T for trans people (and drags, transvestities, etc.), and not every lesbian, gay, bi, etc. person agrees with everyones beliefs in the community, like not every straight person agrees with other straight persons.
Hey! I think it would be super important for you to check out the videos of Dylan Mulvaney so you can know why I was frustrated last year with my tweets. You would understand what exactly I am talking about and the narcissism this influencer flaunts. But the fact that you don't want to know makes me a bit relieved, you shouldn't know because it's nothing inspiring at all.
I know the definition of cisgender, it's a term that was invented in the 90s. Personally I refuse to use this term because I don't think it's necessary. I am very well aware of the procedures to change your sex through hormone replacements and then you can identify with the sex you are transitioning too. Some people are even identifying as a different sex without the surgeries and hormone replacements. Ultimately, the truth is no matter what, you are born male or female. Some boys have more feminine traits but are still boys, some girls have more masculine traits but are still girls. If you transition, ex, you are a man who transitioned into a woman. That is what you are, a transwoman, but you are still a man.
To begin with, I don’t know what denying transexuality truly means and how that is transphobia. If this is in reference to my article(s), I never denied transexuality or trans people. I fully acknowledge their existence. I just believe that as women, women's spaces should be protected and we shouldn’t be forced to believe things that aren't truthful or aren't factual. To me it's super simple. Trans people should not get special treatment. No one on this planet should. That would defeat the purpose of trans people wanting equality... I am always confused. It truly seems to be that trans people want special treatment.
In regards to how you define transphobia I can easily say that the trans people who do not respect women’s spaces are misogynists, and woma- phobes. I also beleive that overly exploiting women and femininity for financial gain is extremely misogynistic as per my mention of Dylan Mulvaney in the article and my comments about women-face on my Twitter posts last year.
Your comment “Common sense could be transphobia because not everyone is trans and not everyone knows what is transexuality, but common does not mean good or correct.” I don't understand what this means.
You can correct me if I am wrong but I think you misinterpreted my article. In this part “They allow doctors to butcher and construct a desired basic manly human while forcing the other men to be hyper feminine so that the people can be physically and mentally weaker. This would eventually make them unable to fight back. The goal is a dystopian future, and this will be easier to achieve now” I am commenting on my personal take as an adult watching The Rocky Horror Picture Show. It's critical thought by me and a creative perspective. What I mean exactly is, lets call big brother or the government a superior entity, if the goal of a superior entity is to create a dystopian future (this means a make believe society that is really bad entirely controlled by an evil mean government that doesn't care about the people's well being at all) a great way to begging controlling the population is to literally make them cognitively dumber and to physically weaken their bodies to fight back. I am being literal in the sense that physically women, and more feminine men are physically weaker than super hyper masculine men. This should not be offensive, this is just factual. So in this hypothetical dystopian world, wouldn't it make sense that the superior entity would like the public to be physically weak so that they cannot retaliate? To dive into this more, when you are messing around with people's hormones like the transitioning treatments, you are harming them and weakening their immune systems and weakening their brains. You can do research but there are cases in which transgender individuals receiving hormone therapies developed liver tumours. There are a lot of harmful side effects coming out post the transitioning treatments. It makes sense - messing up your biology will mess up the way your body works.
Par curiosité, comment avez-vous su que la majorité de votre public était homosexuel ? Aussi, votre public est-il exclusivement torontois, majoritairement torontois ou diversifié dans le monde anglo-saxon et même dans d'autres aires linguistiques ?
De plus, selon vous, que signifie le fait d'avoir un public majoritairement homosexuel par rapport à une chanteuse qui aurait un public majoritairement hétérosexuel ?
Qu'est-ce qui attire tant d'homosexuels dans votre public ?
J'ai découvert que la majorité de ma fan-base fait partie de la communauté LGBTQ grâce aux statistiques de streaming. Beaucoup d'entre eux sont des hommes ou appartiennent à la catégorie non binaire. Les fans me parlent personnellement et me racontent leurs luttes en tant que gays, ou cela est très évident sur leurs réseaux sociaux. Les Drag Queens, les adolescents qui s'identifient comme gays et les adultes. On m'a dit par différentes personnes que je suis une icône gay avec ma musique.
Je pense que ces personnes se rapportent beaucoup à ma musique parce que je n'ai jamais essayé d'être autre chose que moi-même. Je suis authentique. C'est la devise de la communauté gay, vivre en embrassant l'authenticité...
Je suis aussi naturellement très féminine et je n'en ai pas honte.
J'ai été informée par certaines personnes dérangées qui prônent le côté toxique de la communauté LGBTQ+ que je ne réussirai pas dans la musique parce que je suis trop féminine et j'attire le regard masculin.
Wow, this is such an emotionally-charged issue! I have many thoughts, and will try to articulate them as best I can without going on too long. First, though I didn't come out as a gay man until I was 20, I knew I was "different" from the time I was a young child. As far back as I can remember, possibly at the age of 4 or 5, I wanted to be a girl, and liked wearing high heels and girls clothes, though certainly never in public. Though my parents had some concerns, they allowed me to began playing with Barbie dolls at around 6 or 7, which continued until I was 10 or so, after which I stopped. Much to my dad's dismay, I never liked playing sports and was frequently ridiculed by others, mainly boys, as a "sissy" well into middle school, though by that time, I was happy to be a boy.
My husband Michael shares many of the same sentiments about the trans issue as you Melany, and says that today, our parents would be enabling us to transition to girls, which is simply not true (though I do agree with your statement that today, being transgender has sort of become fashionable among some segments of society, in the way cutting or anorexia were a generation ago). Michael goes crazy too when he reads about Dylan Mulvaney, who he also feels degrades and demeans women by his antics. While I've not followed Mulvaney at all, I have to concede that the idea of him being paid by Nike to advertise women's sports bras is both ridiculous and insulting to women (the Bud Light beer sponsorship didn't bother me, though I think it was pretty counter-productive). He also feels that a sizable percentage of teens who think they have sexual dysphoria are simply misguided, and really need psychological counseling and therapy instead, and also that trans surgery and other medical treatments should not be permitted before the age of 18 - something I'm a bit more conflicted about. We both think men who've transitioned to women should not be allowed to compete in women's sports.
Even though we've both been openly gay for much of our adult lives and are now senior citizens, we still don't fully understand what it means to have gender dysphoria, and cannot imagine wanting to transition into women. I'm still utterly baffled that a handsome, athletic man like Bruce Jenner, who married several women and fathered many children, would want to become a woman in his mid-60s. Or that the lovely actress Ellen Page would want to become Elliot. Also, a few male musicians I've written about on my blog, one of whom is even married to a beautiful woman, now consider themselves non-binary, something that totally baffles me. It really does seem like our society has gone mad!
All that being said, we both fear that the growing backlash against trans people will end up hurting all gays and lesbians by association, even though being gay or lesbian is not at all the same as being transgender. Conversely, the open hostility by many in the trans community, who label anyone who even dares to ask questions or disagree with a particular point "transphobic", only serves to hurt their cause and turn otherwise sympathetic people against them. As with many divisive and complex issues, there is often a herd mentality in which people go along with the majority, piling on and attacking someone before they even have all the facts or fully understand the issues. A few years ago, Michael's nephew, who's also gay, was at our house for Thanksgiving with a few of his friends. Michael asked one of the friends if he'd read the Harry Potter books, and the guy responded he hadn't because he heard J.K. Rowling was transphobic. Michael wanted to scream, but just kept quiet.
Hey Jeff! This is such a good response. Thanks for commenting and sharing such personal stuff. These are the exact conversations I want to be having! I thought of something really important that I want to say here and may be inspiring my next article. So as far as I can remember as a little girl, teenager, and heading into my 20s, being gay or lesbian was never an issue for anyone around me. (At least this was my perspective). The mid-late 2000s was a time where people were being very open and loving. I can't even count with my hands the number of friends I had who came out and people I know who came out happily and confidently. (Of course with a bit of family drama and conflict going on in the back end, but for the most part it was a positive experience and the majority of people have been accepting.) I never in my entire life actually met anybody who was homophobic. The majority of people are totally accepting. Possibly because I grew up in Montreal then moved to Toronto. Both cities are entirely creative and progressive. I remember when I was of age in Montreal, 18 years old, one of my best friends in cegep who was a gay boy brought me on weekends to the gay village and we would watch drag shows and drag karaoke and it was so much fun. I remember when I used to watch American Idol as a kid, Adam Lambert was my favourite contestant and performer. Not because he was gay, but because he was effortlessly authentic and the best singer that show ever had in my opinion. Later on my mom and step dad took me to see Adam Lambert perform with Queen and it was one of the best shows I’ve ever seen! Adam Lambert was dressed in the coolest fashion, glitter and studded leather jackets and heels, singing his heart out, it was perfect.
I brought up Adam Lambert for one specific reason - I often when I have debates in my own mind question why I hate Dylan Mulvaney so much and not entertains like Adam Lambert? The answer is simple: as a human, I can smell and see bullshit from miles away. Dylan Mulvaney screams liar, attention seeker, narcissist and not authentic, while Adam Lambert screams honesty, truth, entertainer, and authenticity. With all of my heart and with all of my being I believe that men should dress however they want to and do whatever they want to (so long as they aren't harming anyone) and same for women. The fact of the matter here is that entertainers like Adam Lambert who crossdress as well are not hurting anybody, but people like Dylan Mulvaney are because like I said in my article, they are forcing people to believe they are real women when they aren’t and they are confusing the younger generation. This is where I believe things are going way too far. There is such a huge difference between a gay man who dresses a bit more feminine vs a man who is trying to force the public into believing they are a woman and that's where the problem lies. I hope I'm not rambling too much but I think it's OK to be different, but some things are just disrespectful and not honest. It also starts getting into creepy territory with this whole trans and gender stuff. I don't approve of drag queens entering school doing the story time stuff, I just dont believe it's appropriate - similar to how we wouldn't want women dressed as strippers coming into classrooms reading stuff to kids. I'm sure you know where I'm going with this.
I am with your husband Michael that a sizable percentage of teens who think they have sexual dysphoria are simply misguided, and really need psychological counselling and therapy instead. The trans surgeries are creepy and out of line. Like what happened to me as a teen, teenagers just need to live it out and get over it most of the time. It's part of puberty and coming of age to feel uncomfortable in our bodies. It happens to the majority of us in different ways. Those medical treatments definitely should not be permitted before the age of 18. I’d stretch to even 21 or 25. Most people's brains only fully develop in their mid 20s!!
I’ve experienced Jeff right before Covid a producer in Toronto that Aaron and I worked with transitioned so suddenly. They were in their early 40s and had a kid, cheated on his wife with another woman but started wearing girl things telling me its a fetish. Out of nowhere they fully transitioned. I just think it's so convenient that this happened all around a time when it seemed like everyone was transitioning left and right. I have a hard time believing it's not a trend…
I am actually optimistic and not afraid that the growing backlash against trans people will end up hurting all gays and lesbians. I've seen a lot of folks from the ‘OG’ LGB community say they want no association with the trans people who are cheating and exploiting their community with all of their bullshit. I saw trending on Twitter this #LGBwithoutTQ+ . I don’t know if this is any good either but I see that people of all walks of life have basically had enough with the lies and BS too.
It just all seems like a mob and herd mentality. J.K Rowling is admirable for how she is standing up for women. Good for her!!!
Thanks for your thoughtful response Melany. Your posts, as well as reading other recent articles, has given me greater insight and also caused me to rethink my feelings about the entire transgender issue, which I concede is complex, multi-faceted and deeply personal for many people. That said, it's important that there be as much transparency and honesty about it as possible.
Bravo pour ce texte lucide et bien écrit. Cependant, je dois vous le dire, si vous étiez vraiment Hitler, vous risqueriez fortement d'avoir beaucoup de fans et ces gens courraient, la queue entre les jambes, pour leur vie.
Je vous le dis sans détour. Vous seriez mieux aujourd'hui dans la Russie de Vladimir Poutine que dans le Canada pourri de Justin Trudeau, du faux opposant Poilièvre ou du pseudo-conservateur Maxime Bernier.
Le Canada est un pays qui n'en a plus pour longtemps avant de disparaître. Par choix de ses élites politiques, appuyées massivement par le peuple. Les gens ordinaires ne sont nullement innocents de ce qui arrive. Vos '' amis de Toronto '' sont tout autant des ordures que les membres de l'establishment canadien du Beaver Club ou de l'Economic Club of Canada. J'hésite à savoir s'ils sont des fanatiques ou des nihilistes qui ont bien calculé leur coup et sont prêts à aller jusqu'au meurtre pour se faire valoir, mais je sais une chose, dans la restauration d'une société, de la décadence à la dignité, des purges s'imposent et s'ils pensent fascisme d'emblée, je le confirme, il y aura des massacres de masse pour purifier la société de cette purulence puante et sinistre. Et surtout, il n'est pas dit que la démocratie et les droits de l'homme seront au rendez-vous dans un futur système politique.
J'espère que dans quelques années je pourrai déménager aux USA. Je ne sais pas quoi faire d'autre ici avec ma musique. Merci d'avoir encore lu mon article!!!
Je vous en prie. J'espère que vous connaîtrez un succès phénoménal au Canada, car vous le méritez. Votre chanson Party like 2009 est un testament à votre sens créatif, que personne ne peut vous enlever. Surtout, si vous allez aux États-Unis, à moins que tout le système ne soit purgé d'ici là, faites très attention à vous, surtout à L.A., car le comportement de prédateur des recruteurs de l'industrie y est cent fois pire.
Voici quelque chose dont j'ai discuté avec mon copain. Nous sommes ensemble depuis 9 ans et je crois que, étant donné qu'une partie de mon image en tant qu'artiste musical est liée à ma collaboration avec mon copain qui fait de la musique aussi, les représentants de l'industrie musicale tels que les managers, les promoteurs, etc. ne sont pas intéressés par moi car je ne peux pas être exploitée. Les prédateurs auraient vraiment du mal à m'atteindre. Je vois beaucoup d'artistes de mon genre qui ont moins de compétences vocales et lyriques obtenir des opportunités parce qu'ils sont encouragés à être excessivement formatés pour vendre.
Est-ce que les travestis font partie de la communauté LGBTQ ?
Aussi, en fait-on partie parce qu'une mesure objective de notre sexualité nous amène a en faire partie ou bien parce que l'individu se proclame comme en faisant partie ?
Pour mieux vous comprendre, êtes-vous une libertaire de principe qui considère que certains pans de la communauté LGBTQ sont dans l'excès de zèle, mettant ainsi en danger la communauté dans son ensemble ?
Par libertaire, j'entends quelqu'un qui a une conception des moeurs non régulée par la religion, mais par les désirs et les penchants personnels tant que ceux-ci respectent les lois ?
Par exemple, que pensez-vous de l'homosexualité ? De la transsexualité ? Du mariage homosexuel ? De l'adoption d'enfants par les couples homosexuels ?
Que pensez-vous de la légalisation de la marijuana ? Des autres drogues encore illégales ?
Que pensez-vous de la légalisation de la prostitution ?
Des centres de massage érotiques ?
Que pensez-vous de la pornographie ?
Des cabarets de drag-queen ?
Que pensez-vous d'un red light district ?
Que pensez-vous des bars de danseuses nues, du stripping et des danseuses nues ?
Que pensez-vous des sex-shops ?
Que pensez-vous du BDSM et des donjons où cela se pratique ?
Est-il permis par vous et seriez-vous à l'aise de voir arriver un homme en tenues féminines érotiques en latex dans vos shows ? Est-ce même déjà arrivé ?
Hi there. I am unsure if you are a bot, because the comment was very confusing and run-off-esque, but just in case you are not a bot, I am responding because I value your opinion and perspective. I also take my articles very seriously even though I can be often sarcastic and I use analogies and satire to make the writing pieces more interesting. Firstly, thank you for listening to my music. I can assure you that I will always be an artist/musician over being a ‘YouTube poster.’ I am not sure what you mean by this either, but if I can make an assumption, you are meaning a musician that posts just for clout. If you have been following me for some time you surely are aware that I am not like that, especially given my very humble small following overall. I do not crave attention in that way. I actually dislike social media to my core and that is why I am perceived as a less successful artist in 2024 unfortunately since the numbers game matters most in this industry. I never ‘blew up’ or vent ‘viral.’
You feel I am appealing to the anti trans people in the USA. I appeal to people with common sense. All walks of life with common sense. Most of all, I appeal to women. I do not use the term cis. I believe in truth and common sense. I never took any real inspiration from Oli London. During that time, I came across their tweets and liked what they were saying and used that as a retweet. That being said, I don't believe what Oli London does or says necessarily 100%. To be honest, I don’t actually believe anybody 100%. I like to think for myself, review different opinions and facts, and then come to my own conclusions.
You said that I didn’t gain popularity with my music in recent years. I would actually disagree. The growth is small, but the growth is there. I am unsigned, I do not have financial support, and I do the best that I can. I have received few but major press opportunities and have been platformed to a certain degree. My music has been on the radio, and people are starting to know who I am in random public spaces. Fans voluntarily have made fan pages on social media and my Google SEO is great in my opinion. I am proud of my accomplishments and I am grateful for my listeners and small fandom. I had a bad experience with certain people who claim to be defending trans people because instead of having a discussion with me, they chose to cancel me and slander my name. The people who did this were 95% male and in the music scene. This is very telling if you think about it. You know well that women have always struggled in the music industry. It was made clear to me that as a woman I am still not entitled to an opinion and I am not entitled to defend women either. Let's be very clear: I never said trans people should not exist. I said in many different ways that women should not have their spaces invaded by men and men should not steal women’s roles. Furthermore, men are men and women are women. I believe in the natural biological differences such as reproductive anatomy and the significant hormonal differences between the two, regardless of who they chose to sleep with. In my personal life I am acquainted and I am friends with people who transitioned and are in the process, and they agree with my stance too. Would you say their opinions are not valid as trans people? In addition, I grew up with and still currently have gay friends. In particular, one of my friends does drag in The Netherlands and they as well fully stand by me. Do all of these people in the LGBTQ+ community not matter? Redeeming myself here is not the point, my point is that I have noticed that even people who are literally in the community are tired of the gaslighting and lies too.
It will be hard for me to monetize off of an “anti trans” following. You are suggesting that this is what I am doing. If the music industry, and most specifically the Canadian music industry is extremely ‘woke,’ they will go above and beyond to blacklist/boycott/cancel whatever you want to call it because they don’t like what I have to say. They will continue to not provide me a platform which is preventing my growth as an artist. Also, here in Canada we have strict censorship laws on social media. All of my articles and posts are being shadowbanned when I discuss these issues and topics. My meaningless selfies get more exposure. It is unclear to me at this stage of my music career how I will profit off of telling the truth.
You mentioned that trans people are a good topic to bully or to be against because not so many people are trans. About 0.5-1% of the population has gender dysphoria (I will let you research the term) and the rest, well, it's a social and cultural epidemic and trend. Similar to the cutting/anorexia wave that happened in the 90s/early 2000s. I fell victim to this by the way and I can empathise and I do not wish to go into more detail. I fail to see your point. To be completely honest, I am not here to bully the trans community and I don't believe anyone really is. Stating facts and truth is not bullying. For example, I, as a biological woman, do not want to see a biological man in the public washroom or changing room. Also, I do not want to see a man flailing around tampons and bras because it's cute. It's not cute. It's stupid. When I have children, if I have a little girl I do not want a naked man walking around here if she goes to a public swimming pool and uses the restroom. Same for if I have a little boy. I would not want a naked woman walking around him. This is simple common sense. You also said that sports in general are unsure. Okay, so why are we making it even more unfair by adding men to compete against women. I use this example more because men are physically stronger than women and are more of a threat. It would be silly to complain about a man fighting against a woman if the woman voluntarily seeks defeat which is not as often the case.
Basically I mention trans women a lot more because I am a woman and I am more affected by trans women. It's not smart nor stupid, it's just what I felt like writing about more. As you know I am a music artist and not a professional journalist or politician. This Substack is about my personal experiences. You said “It is dumb because you ignore the other part, the masculinity that can be done and it is done by female human beings.” Please, if you're interested, elaborate because I didn't understand this sentence.
Also, if you’re interested, please elaborate on your comment “You see femininity as a weak and dangerous thing that will end up in distopy to the world, and that is kinda misogynistic, don't you think?” I don’t see where I said femininity is a weakness and I don’t understand the rest of the sentence.
Finally, you brought up Madonna’s lyrics: “Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short, wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy. But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, 'cause you think that being a girl is degrading” and said it reminds you of what I said about Dylan Mulvaney. I don’t know how this is relevant to anything I’ve ever written or said. Do you truly believe Dylan Mulvaney simply wants to wear a dress and heels and just be accepted? Or do you think there is something darker beneath it all. I am allowing you a space to share your thoughts and opinions. I'd like you to convince me what is so empowering about a figure like Dylan Mulvaney?
Yes, I can write all the Substack posts I want thankfully. Unfortunately, I will continue to not be platformed and not be a part of the Canadian music industry because my views are in alignment with common sense and sticking up for women. It doesn't actually protect the LGBTQ+ community because this may be shocking to you, but a majority of my fans are part of the LGBTQ+ community and everyday they ask me to perform at pride and I can’t because I get declined. What pride used to mean many years ago is very different today. We are entering dangerous propaganda territory. A lot of people in the LGBTQ+ community want women to be heard, want to protect women, want to be treated equally and fairly, and don’t approve of under age kids and teens transitioning, being harmed and the stereotypes and exploitation of the gay and lesbian people. This is a topic I am not interested in diving further into but these people are being ignored. Some of my fans who are gay call me the new gay icon and wish I had more exposure.
I don’t know who you are if you are not a bot, but I wouldn’t think you’re a degenerate or weak just because you are a more feminine male. I wouldn’t consider you dangerous unless you are deliberately harming people.
Initial comment by @juegawdu was deleted. This is what they said:
Um, I kinda want to post a comment here because I've reading some of your opinions. I feel like you are trying to appeal to the anti trans people that are out there these days in USA, and it's not a bad move, you took inspiration on Oli London, the guy you retweeted on Twitter, he gained popularity through social media by doing some freaky things and, when he got enough spotlight, he started selling books about anti transexuality to profit from these people. You didn't gain popularity with your music these years, but you had a bad experience with people defending trans people, so you started talking about it and gaining some anti trans followers, thinking that you could monetize from them in the future. Trans people are a good topic to bully or being against it because not so many people are trans, and you can tell the people that are not trans that they show themselves naked to minors and that they are taking advantage from cis women in sports (when sports competitions are not fair and equal to begin with, but that's other topic). I find kinda smart but stupid at the same time that you only mention trans women and talk only about feminity. It is dumb because you ignore the other part, the masculinity that can be done and it is done by female human beings. You see feminity as a weak and dangerous thing that will end up in distopy to the world, and that is kinda misogynistic, don't you think? Madonna said this some time ago in her song What It Feels Like For a Girl: Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short, wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy. But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, 'cause you think that being a girl is degrading. This lyrics reminds me of what you said about Dylan in this article. I'm forgeting things that I wanted to write in this comment, but I will comment those in your future posts here if I remember them. I like your music and your looks, that's why I followed you some time ago, but if you are moving to be a YouTube poster instead of a musician, I will stop following and just listen to your music. Time will tell, but it is sad to lose an artist, but if you don't get money from it, it is understandable. To finish this comment (broken in the middle because I forgot some things that I wanted to write), I wanted to say that you are able talk about these things and to be offended, you see that you can write these posts, you are not censored, but people can not invite you to their music festivals or shows (I don't know what was the place that you went before) because of what you say in your social media about trans people, and it is to protect the trans, LGBT+, and the audience in general. As a feminine male, I wouldn't attend a show of a person that thinks that I'm a degenerate, weak person, dangerous person or whatever bad thing (this is just an example). Good luck with all, I will read your future posts and if I remember the other things that I wanted to say, I will say them in my future comments.
I replied:
Hi there. I am unsure if you are a bot, because the comment was very confusing and run-off-esque, but just in case you are not a bot, I am responding because I value your opinion and perspective. I also take my articles very seriously even though I can be often sarcastic and I use analogies and satire to make the writing pieces more interesting. Firstly, thank you for listening to my music. I can assure you that I will always be an artist/musician over being a ‘YouTube poster.’ I am not sure what you mean by this either, but if I can make an assumption, you are meaning a musician that posts just for clout. If you have been following me for some time you surely are aware that I am not like that, especially given my very humble small following overall. I do not crave attention in that way. I actually dislike social media to my core and that is why I am perceived as a less successful artist in 2024 unfortunately since the numbers game matters most in this industry. I never ‘blew up’ or vent ‘viral.’
You feel I am appealing to the anti trans people in the USA. I appeal to people with common sense. All walks of life with common sense. Most of all, I appeal to women. I do not use the term cis. I believe in truth and common sense. I never took any real inspiration from Oli London. During that time, I came across their tweets and liked what they were saying and used that as a retweet. That being said, I don't believe what Oli London does or says necessarily 100%. To be honest, I don’t actually believe anybody 100%. I like to think for myself, review different opinions and facts, and then come to my own conclusions.
You said that I didn’t gain popularity with my music in recent years. I would actually disagree. The growth is small, but the growth is there. I am unsigned, I do not have financial support, and I do the best that I can. I have received few but major press opportunities and have been platformed to a certain degree. My music has been on the radio, and people are starting to know who I am in random public spaces. Fans voluntarily have made fan pages on social media and my Google SEO is great in my opinion. I am proud of my accomplishments and I am grateful for my listeners and small fandom. I had a bad experience with certain people who claim to be defending trans people because instead of having a discussion with me, they chose to cancel me and slander my name. The people who did this were 95% male and in the music scene. This is very telling if you think about it. You know well that women have always struggled in the music industry. It was made clear to me that as a woman I am still not entitled to an opinion and I am not entitled to defend women either. Let's be very clear: I never said trans people should not exist. I said in many different ways that women should not have their spaces invaded by men and men should not steal women’s roles. Furthermore, men are men and women are women. I believe in the natural biological differences such as reproductive anatomy and the significant hormonal differences between the two, regardless of who they chose to sleep with. In my personal life I am acquainted and I am friends with people who transitioned and are in the process, and they agree with my stance too. Would you say their opinions are not valid as trans people? In addition, I grew up with and still currently have gay friends. In particular, one of my friends does drag in The Netherlands and they as well fully stand by me. Do all of these people in the LGBTQ+ community not matter? Redeeming myself here is not the point, my point is that I have noticed that even people who are literally in the community are tired of the gaslighting and lies too.
It will be hard for me to monetize off of an “anti trans” following. You are suggesting that this is what I am doing. If the music industry, and most specifically the Canadian music industry is extremely ‘woke,’ they will go above and beyond to blacklist/boycott/cancel whatever you want to call it because they don’t like what I have to say. They will continue to not provide me a platform which is preventing my growth as an artist. Also, here in Canada we have strict censorship laws on social media. All of my articles and posts are being shadowbanned when I discuss these issues and topics. My meaningless selfies get more exposure. It is unclear to me at this stage of my music career how I will profit off of telling the truth.
You mentioned that trans people are a good topic to bully or to be against because not so many people are trans. About 0.5-1% of the population has gender dysphoria (I will let you research the term) and the rest, well, it's a social and cultural epidemic and trend. Similar to the cutting/anorexia wave that happened in the 90s/early 2000s. I fell victim to this by the way and I can empathize and I do not wish to go into more detail. I fail to see your point. To be completely honest, I am not here to bully the trans community and I don't believe anyone really is. Stating facts and truth is not bullying. For example, I, as a biological woman, do not want to see a biological man in the public washroom or changing room. Also, I do not want to see a man flailing around tampons and bras because it's cute. It's not cute. It's stupid. When I have children, if I have a little girl I do not want a naked man walking around here if she goes to a public swimming pool and uses the restroom. Same for if I have a little boy. I would not want a naked woman walking around him. This is simple common sense. You also said that sports in general are unfair. Okay, so why are we making it even more unfair by adding men to compete against women. I use this example more because men are physically stronger than women and are more of a threat. It would be silly to complain about a man fighting against a woman if the woman voluntarily seeks defeat which is not as often the case.
Basically I mention trans women a lot more because I am a woman and I am more affected by trans women. It's not smart nor stupid, it's just what I felt like writing about more. As you know I am a music artist and not a professional journalist or politician. This Substack is about my personal experiences. You said “It is dumb because you ignore the other part, the masculinity that can be done and it is done by female human beings.” Please, if you're interested, elaborate because I didn't understand this sentence.
Also, if you’re interested, please elaborate on your comment “You see femininity as a weak and dangerous thing that will end up in distopy to the world, and that is kinda misogynistic, don't you think?” I don’t see where I said femininity is a weakness and I don’t understand the rest of the sentence.
Finally, you brought up Madonna’s lyrics: “Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short, wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy. But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, 'cause you think that being a girl is degrading” and said it reminds you of what I said about Dylan Mulvaney. I don’t know how this is relevant to anything I’ve ever written or said. Do you truly believe Dylan Mulvaney simply wants to wear a dress and heels and just be accepted? Or do you think there is something darker beneath it all. I am allowing you a space to share your thoughts and opinions. I'd like you to convince me what is so empowering about a figure like Dylan Mulvaney?
Yes, I can write all the Substack posts I want thankfully. Unfortunately, I will continue to not be platformed and not be a part of the Canadian music industry because my views are in alignment with common sense and sticking up for women. It doesn't actually protect the LGBTQ+ community because this may be shocking to you, but a majority of my fans are part of the LGBTQ+ community and everyday they ask me to perform at pride and I can’t because I get declined. What pride used to mean many years ago is very different today. We are entering dangerous propaganda territory. A lot of people in the LGBTQ+ community want women to be heard, want to protect women, want to be treated equally and fairly, and don’t approve of under age kids and teens transitioning, being harmed and the stereotypes and exploitation of the gay and lesbian people. This is a topic I am not interested in diving further into but these people are being ignored. Some of my fans who are gay call me the new gay icon and wish I had more exposure.
I don’t know who you are if you are not a bot, but I wouldn’t think you’re a degenerate or weak just because you are a more feminine male. I wouldn’t consider you dangerous unless you are deliberately harming people.
Thank you, I didn't know my comment was deleted. No, I'm not a bot. I don't know who Dylan is, and I don't wanna know haha.
Cis is a person who identifies with the sex given at birth.
People can change a little bit their sex with hormone replacement, and can identify with other sex that is not the one that doctors and society (or biology) said. Denying transexuality is transphobia, literally the meaning, you don't necessarily need to kill them or tell to kill them to be one.
Common sense could be transphobia because not everyone is trans and not everyone knows what is transexuality, but common does not mean good or correct.
I wrote about Madonna's lyrics and femininity and masculinity because this topic and because I read your article where you say: ``other men to be hyper feminine so that the people can be physically and mentally weaker´´ and other things that I don't find right now. What I meant was that you say that because it is thought that being feminine or a woman is bad (or weaker or distopic), and don't mention trans men because being masculine or a man is seen good. I don't know your true intentions or beliefs because I'm not on your mind.
The topic about bathrooms separated by sex is a whole topic that I don't like, but the society made those to avoid problems and to prevent potential crimes because people are usually heterosexual.
LGBTQ+ community has the T for trans people (and drags, transvestities, etc.), and not every lesbian, gay, bi, etc. person agrees with everyones beliefs in the community, like not every straight person agrees with other straight persons.
Thank you so much for answering.
Hey! I think it would be super important for you to check out the videos of Dylan Mulvaney so you can know why I was frustrated last year with my tweets. You would understand what exactly I am talking about and the narcissism this influencer flaunts. But the fact that you don't want to know makes me a bit relieved, you shouldn't know because it's nothing inspiring at all.
I know the definition of cisgender, it's a term that was invented in the 90s. Personally I refuse to use this term because I don't think it's necessary. I am very well aware of the procedures to change your sex through hormone replacements and then you can identify with the sex you are transitioning too. Some people are even identifying as a different sex without the surgeries and hormone replacements. Ultimately, the truth is no matter what, you are born male or female. Some boys have more feminine traits but are still boys, some girls have more masculine traits but are still girls. If you transition, ex, you are a man who transitioned into a woman. That is what you are, a transwoman, but you are still a man.
To begin with, I don’t know what denying transexuality truly means and how that is transphobia. If this is in reference to my article(s), I never denied transexuality or trans people. I fully acknowledge their existence. I just believe that as women, women's spaces should be protected and we shouldn’t be forced to believe things that aren't truthful or aren't factual. To me it's super simple. Trans people should not get special treatment. No one on this planet should. That would defeat the purpose of trans people wanting equality... I am always confused. It truly seems to be that trans people want special treatment.
In regards to how you define transphobia I can easily say that the trans people who do not respect women’s spaces are misogynists, and woma- phobes. I also beleive that overly exploiting women and femininity for financial gain is extremely misogynistic as per my mention of Dylan Mulvaney in the article and my comments about women-face on my Twitter posts last year.
Your comment “Common sense could be transphobia because not everyone is trans and not everyone knows what is transexuality, but common does not mean good or correct.” I don't understand what this means.
You can correct me if I am wrong but I think you misinterpreted my article. In this part “They allow doctors to butcher and construct a desired basic manly human while forcing the other men to be hyper feminine so that the people can be physically and mentally weaker. This would eventually make them unable to fight back. The goal is a dystopian future, and this will be easier to achieve now” I am commenting on my personal take as an adult watching The Rocky Horror Picture Show. It's critical thought by me and a creative perspective. What I mean exactly is, lets call big brother or the government a superior entity, if the goal of a superior entity is to create a dystopian future (this means a make believe society that is really bad entirely controlled by an evil mean government that doesn't care about the people's well being at all) a great way to begging controlling the population is to literally make them cognitively dumber and to physically weaken their bodies to fight back. I am being literal in the sense that physically women, and more feminine men are physically weaker than super hyper masculine men. This should not be offensive, this is just factual. So in this hypothetical dystopian world, wouldn't it make sense that the superior entity would like the public to be physically weak so that they cannot retaliate? To dive into this more, when you are messing around with people's hormones like the transitioning treatments, you are harming them and weakening their immune systems and weakening their brains. You can do research but there are cases in which transgender individuals receiving hormone therapies developed liver tumours. There are a lot of harmful side effects coming out post the transitioning treatments. It makes sense - messing up your biology will mess up the way your body works.
What do you think?
Bonsoir Mademoiselle Melotika
Par curiosité, comment avez-vous su que la majorité de votre public était homosexuel ? Aussi, votre public est-il exclusivement torontois, majoritairement torontois ou diversifié dans le monde anglo-saxon et même dans d'autres aires linguistiques ?
De plus, selon vous, que signifie le fait d'avoir un public majoritairement homosexuel par rapport à une chanteuse qui aurait un public majoritairement hétérosexuel ?
Qu'est-ce qui attire tant d'homosexuels dans votre public ?
Cordialement,
Moussa
J'ai découvert que la majorité de ma fan-base fait partie de la communauté LGBTQ grâce aux statistiques de streaming. Beaucoup d'entre eux sont des hommes ou appartiennent à la catégorie non binaire. Les fans me parlent personnellement et me racontent leurs luttes en tant que gays, ou cela est très évident sur leurs réseaux sociaux. Les Drag Queens, les adolescents qui s'identifient comme gays et les adultes. On m'a dit par différentes personnes que je suis une icône gay avec ma musique.
Je pense que ces personnes se rapportent beaucoup à ma musique parce que je n'ai jamais essayé d'être autre chose que moi-même. Je suis authentique. C'est la devise de la communauté gay, vivre en embrassant l'authenticité...
Je suis aussi naturellement très féminine et je n'en ai pas honte.
J'ai été informée par certaines personnes dérangées qui prônent le côté toxique de la communauté LGBTQ+ que je ne réussirai pas dans la musique parce que je suis trop féminine et j'attire le regard masculin.
Wow, this is such an emotionally-charged issue! I have many thoughts, and will try to articulate them as best I can without going on too long. First, though I didn't come out as a gay man until I was 20, I knew I was "different" from the time I was a young child. As far back as I can remember, possibly at the age of 4 or 5, I wanted to be a girl, and liked wearing high heels and girls clothes, though certainly never in public. Though my parents had some concerns, they allowed me to began playing with Barbie dolls at around 6 or 7, which continued until I was 10 or so, after which I stopped. Much to my dad's dismay, I never liked playing sports and was frequently ridiculed by others, mainly boys, as a "sissy" well into middle school, though by that time, I was happy to be a boy.
My husband Michael shares many of the same sentiments about the trans issue as you Melany, and says that today, our parents would be enabling us to transition to girls, which is simply not true (though I do agree with your statement that today, being transgender has sort of become fashionable among some segments of society, in the way cutting or anorexia were a generation ago). Michael goes crazy too when he reads about Dylan Mulvaney, who he also feels degrades and demeans women by his antics. While I've not followed Mulvaney at all, I have to concede that the idea of him being paid by Nike to advertise women's sports bras is both ridiculous and insulting to women (the Bud Light beer sponsorship didn't bother me, though I think it was pretty counter-productive). He also feels that a sizable percentage of teens who think they have sexual dysphoria are simply misguided, and really need psychological counseling and therapy instead, and also that trans surgery and other medical treatments should not be permitted before the age of 18 - something I'm a bit more conflicted about. We both think men who've transitioned to women should not be allowed to compete in women's sports.
Even though we've both been openly gay for much of our adult lives and are now senior citizens, we still don't fully understand what it means to have gender dysphoria, and cannot imagine wanting to transition into women. I'm still utterly baffled that a handsome, athletic man like Bruce Jenner, who married several women and fathered many children, would want to become a woman in his mid-60s. Or that the lovely actress Ellen Page would want to become Elliot. Also, a few male musicians I've written about on my blog, one of whom is even married to a beautiful woman, now consider themselves non-binary, something that totally baffles me. It really does seem like our society has gone mad!
All that being said, we both fear that the growing backlash against trans people will end up hurting all gays and lesbians by association, even though being gay or lesbian is not at all the same as being transgender. Conversely, the open hostility by many in the trans community, who label anyone who even dares to ask questions or disagree with a particular point "transphobic", only serves to hurt their cause and turn otherwise sympathetic people against them. As with many divisive and complex issues, there is often a herd mentality in which people go along with the majority, piling on and attacking someone before they even have all the facts or fully understand the issues. A few years ago, Michael's nephew, who's also gay, was at our house for Thanksgiving with a few of his friends. Michael asked one of the friends if he'd read the Harry Potter books, and the guy responded he hadn't because he heard J.K. Rowling was transphobic. Michael wanted to scream, but just kept quiet.
Hey Jeff! This is such a good response. Thanks for commenting and sharing such personal stuff. These are the exact conversations I want to be having! I thought of something really important that I want to say here and may be inspiring my next article. So as far as I can remember as a little girl, teenager, and heading into my 20s, being gay or lesbian was never an issue for anyone around me. (At least this was my perspective). The mid-late 2000s was a time where people were being very open and loving. I can't even count with my hands the number of friends I had who came out and people I know who came out happily and confidently. (Of course with a bit of family drama and conflict going on in the back end, but for the most part it was a positive experience and the majority of people have been accepting.) I never in my entire life actually met anybody who was homophobic. The majority of people are totally accepting. Possibly because I grew up in Montreal then moved to Toronto. Both cities are entirely creative and progressive. I remember when I was of age in Montreal, 18 years old, one of my best friends in cegep who was a gay boy brought me on weekends to the gay village and we would watch drag shows and drag karaoke and it was so much fun. I remember when I used to watch American Idol as a kid, Adam Lambert was my favourite contestant and performer. Not because he was gay, but because he was effortlessly authentic and the best singer that show ever had in my opinion. Later on my mom and step dad took me to see Adam Lambert perform with Queen and it was one of the best shows I’ve ever seen! Adam Lambert was dressed in the coolest fashion, glitter and studded leather jackets and heels, singing his heart out, it was perfect.
I brought up Adam Lambert for one specific reason - I often when I have debates in my own mind question why I hate Dylan Mulvaney so much and not entertains like Adam Lambert? The answer is simple: as a human, I can smell and see bullshit from miles away. Dylan Mulvaney screams liar, attention seeker, narcissist and not authentic, while Adam Lambert screams honesty, truth, entertainer, and authenticity. With all of my heart and with all of my being I believe that men should dress however they want to and do whatever they want to (so long as they aren't harming anyone) and same for women. The fact of the matter here is that entertainers like Adam Lambert who crossdress as well are not hurting anybody, but people like Dylan Mulvaney are because like I said in my article, they are forcing people to believe they are real women when they aren’t and they are confusing the younger generation. This is where I believe things are going way too far. There is such a huge difference between a gay man who dresses a bit more feminine vs a man who is trying to force the public into believing they are a woman and that's where the problem lies. I hope I'm not rambling too much but I think it's OK to be different, but some things are just disrespectful and not honest. It also starts getting into creepy territory with this whole trans and gender stuff. I don't approve of drag queens entering school doing the story time stuff, I just dont believe it's appropriate - similar to how we wouldn't want women dressed as strippers coming into classrooms reading stuff to kids. I'm sure you know where I'm going with this.
I am with your husband Michael that a sizable percentage of teens who think they have sexual dysphoria are simply misguided, and really need psychological counselling and therapy instead. The trans surgeries are creepy and out of line. Like what happened to me as a teen, teenagers just need to live it out and get over it most of the time. It's part of puberty and coming of age to feel uncomfortable in our bodies. It happens to the majority of us in different ways. Those medical treatments definitely should not be permitted before the age of 18. I’d stretch to even 21 or 25. Most people's brains only fully develop in their mid 20s!!
I’ve experienced Jeff right before Covid a producer in Toronto that Aaron and I worked with transitioned so suddenly. They were in their early 40s and had a kid, cheated on his wife with another woman but started wearing girl things telling me its a fetish. Out of nowhere they fully transitioned. I just think it's so convenient that this happened all around a time when it seemed like everyone was transitioning left and right. I have a hard time believing it's not a trend…
I am actually optimistic and not afraid that the growing backlash against trans people will end up hurting all gays and lesbians. I've seen a lot of folks from the ‘OG’ LGB community say they want no association with the trans people who are cheating and exploiting their community with all of their bullshit. I saw trending on Twitter this #LGBwithoutTQ+ . I don’t know if this is any good either but I see that people of all walks of life have basically had enough with the lies and BS too.
It just all seems like a mob and herd mentality. J.K Rowling is admirable for how she is standing up for women. Good for her!!!
Thanks for your thoughtful response Melany. Your posts, as well as reading other recent articles, has given me greater insight and also caused me to rethink my feelings about the entire transgender issue, which I concede is complex, multi-faceted and deeply personal for many people. That said, it's important that there be as much transparency and honesty about it as possible.
Bonjour Mademoiselle Melotika,
Bravo pour ce texte lucide et bien écrit. Cependant, je dois vous le dire, si vous étiez vraiment Hitler, vous risqueriez fortement d'avoir beaucoup de fans et ces gens courraient, la queue entre les jambes, pour leur vie.
Je vous le dis sans détour. Vous seriez mieux aujourd'hui dans la Russie de Vladimir Poutine que dans le Canada pourri de Justin Trudeau, du faux opposant Poilièvre ou du pseudo-conservateur Maxime Bernier.
Ils peuvent tous aller se faire foutre.
Cordialement,
Moussa
Le Canada est un pays qui n'en a plus pour longtemps avant de disparaître. Par choix de ses élites politiques, appuyées massivement par le peuple. Les gens ordinaires ne sont nullement innocents de ce qui arrive. Vos '' amis de Toronto '' sont tout autant des ordures que les membres de l'establishment canadien du Beaver Club ou de l'Economic Club of Canada. J'hésite à savoir s'ils sont des fanatiques ou des nihilistes qui ont bien calculé leur coup et sont prêts à aller jusqu'au meurtre pour se faire valoir, mais je sais une chose, dans la restauration d'une société, de la décadence à la dignité, des purges s'imposent et s'ils pensent fascisme d'emblée, je le confirme, il y aura des massacres de masse pour purifier la société de cette purulence puante et sinistre. Et surtout, il n'est pas dit que la démocratie et les droits de l'homme seront au rendez-vous dans un futur système politique.
Cordialement,
Moussa
Bonjour Moussa,
J'espère que dans quelques années je pourrai déménager aux USA. Je ne sais pas quoi faire d'autre ici avec ma musique. Merci d'avoir encore lu mon article!!!
Mel
Je vous en prie. J'espère que vous connaîtrez un succès phénoménal au Canada, car vous le méritez. Votre chanson Party like 2009 est un testament à votre sens créatif, que personne ne peut vous enlever. Surtout, si vous allez aux États-Unis, à moins que tout le système ne soit purgé d'ici là, faites très attention à vous, surtout à L.A., car le comportement de prédateur des recruteurs de l'industrie y est cent fois pire.
Cordialement,
Moussa
Voici quelque chose dont j'ai discuté avec mon copain. Nous sommes ensemble depuis 9 ans et je crois que, étant donné qu'une partie de mon image en tant qu'artiste musical est liée à ma collaboration avec mon copain qui fait de la musique aussi, les représentants de l'industrie musicale tels que les managers, les promoteurs, etc. ne sont pas intéressés par moi car je ne peux pas être exploitée. Les prédateurs auraient vraiment du mal à m'atteindre. Je vois beaucoup d'artistes de mon genre qui ont moins de compétences vocales et lyriques obtenir des opportunités parce qu'ils sont encouragés à être excessivement formatés pour vendre.
Bonjour Melotika,
Est-ce que les travestis font partie de la communauté LGBTQ ?
Aussi, en fait-on partie parce qu'une mesure objective de notre sexualité nous amène a en faire partie ou bien parce que l'individu se proclame comme en faisant partie ?
Pour mieux vous comprendre, êtes-vous une libertaire de principe qui considère que certains pans de la communauté LGBTQ sont dans l'excès de zèle, mettant ainsi en danger la communauté dans son ensemble ?
Par libertaire, j'entends quelqu'un qui a une conception des moeurs non régulée par la religion, mais par les désirs et les penchants personnels tant que ceux-ci respectent les lois ?
Par exemple, que pensez-vous de l'homosexualité ? De la transsexualité ? Du mariage homosexuel ? De l'adoption d'enfants par les couples homosexuels ?
Que pensez-vous de la légalisation de la marijuana ? Des autres drogues encore illégales ?
Que pensez-vous de la légalisation de la prostitution ?
Des centres de massage érotiques ?
Que pensez-vous de la pornographie ?
Des cabarets de drag-queen ?
Que pensez-vous d'un red light district ?
Que pensez-vous des bars de danseuses nues, du stripping et des danseuses nues ?
Que pensez-vous des sex-shops ?
Que pensez-vous du BDSM et des donjons où cela se pratique ?
Est-il permis par vous et seriez-vous à l'aise de voir arriver un homme en tenues féminines érotiques en latex dans vos shows ? Est-ce même déjà arrivé ?
Cordialement,
Moussa
Hi there. I am unsure if you are a bot, because the comment was very confusing and run-off-esque, but just in case you are not a bot, I am responding because I value your opinion and perspective. I also take my articles very seriously even though I can be often sarcastic and I use analogies and satire to make the writing pieces more interesting. Firstly, thank you for listening to my music. I can assure you that I will always be an artist/musician over being a ‘YouTube poster.’ I am not sure what you mean by this either, but if I can make an assumption, you are meaning a musician that posts just for clout. If you have been following me for some time you surely are aware that I am not like that, especially given my very humble small following overall. I do not crave attention in that way. I actually dislike social media to my core and that is why I am perceived as a less successful artist in 2024 unfortunately since the numbers game matters most in this industry. I never ‘blew up’ or vent ‘viral.’
You feel I am appealing to the anti trans people in the USA. I appeal to people with common sense. All walks of life with common sense. Most of all, I appeal to women. I do not use the term cis. I believe in truth and common sense. I never took any real inspiration from Oli London. During that time, I came across their tweets and liked what they were saying and used that as a retweet. That being said, I don't believe what Oli London does or says necessarily 100%. To be honest, I don’t actually believe anybody 100%. I like to think for myself, review different opinions and facts, and then come to my own conclusions.
You said that I didn’t gain popularity with my music in recent years. I would actually disagree. The growth is small, but the growth is there. I am unsigned, I do not have financial support, and I do the best that I can. I have received few but major press opportunities and have been platformed to a certain degree. My music has been on the radio, and people are starting to know who I am in random public spaces. Fans voluntarily have made fan pages on social media and my Google SEO is great in my opinion. I am proud of my accomplishments and I am grateful for my listeners and small fandom. I had a bad experience with certain people who claim to be defending trans people because instead of having a discussion with me, they chose to cancel me and slander my name. The people who did this were 95% male and in the music scene. This is very telling if you think about it. You know well that women have always struggled in the music industry. It was made clear to me that as a woman I am still not entitled to an opinion and I am not entitled to defend women either. Let's be very clear: I never said trans people should not exist. I said in many different ways that women should not have their spaces invaded by men and men should not steal women’s roles. Furthermore, men are men and women are women. I believe in the natural biological differences such as reproductive anatomy and the significant hormonal differences between the two, regardless of who they chose to sleep with. In my personal life I am acquainted and I am friends with people who transitioned and are in the process, and they agree with my stance too. Would you say their opinions are not valid as trans people? In addition, I grew up with and still currently have gay friends. In particular, one of my friends does drag in The Netherlands and they as well fully stand by me. Do all of these people in the LGBTQ+ community not matter? Redeeming myself here is not the point, my point is that I have noticed that even people who are literally in the community are tired of the gaslighting and lies too.
It will be hard for me to monetize off of an “anti trans” following. You are suggesting that this is what I am doing. If the music industry, and most specifically the Canadian music industry is extremely ‘woke,’ they will go above and beyond to blacklist/boycott/cancel whatever you want to call it because they don’t like what I have to say. They will continue to not provide me a platform which is preventing my growth as an artist. Also, here in Canada we have strict censorship laws on social media. All of my articles and posts are being shadowbanned when I discuss these issues and topics. My meaningless selfies get more exposure. It is unclear to me at this stage of my music career how I will profit off of telling the truth.
You mentioned that trans people are a good topic to bully or to be against because not so many people are trans. About 0.5-1% of the population has gender dysphoria (I will let you research the term) and the rest, well, it's a social and cultural epidemic and trend. Similar to the cutting/anorexia wave that happened in the 90s/early 2000s. I fell victim to this by the way and I can empathise and I do not wish to go into more detail. I fail to see your point. To be completely honest, I am not here to bully the trans community and I don't believe anyone really is. Stating facts and truth is not bullying. For example, I, as a biological woman, do not want to see a biological man in the public washroom or changing room. Also, I do not want to see a man flailing around tampons and bras because it's cute. It's not cute. It's stupid. When I have children, if I have a little girl I do not want a naked man walking around here if she goes to a public swimming pool and uses the restroom. Same for if I have a little boy. I would not want a naked woman walking around him. This is simple common sense. You also said that sports in general are unsure. Okay, so why are we making it even more unfair by adding men to compete against women. I use this example more because men are physically stronger than women and are more of a threat. It would be silly to complain about a man fighting against a woman if the woman voluntarily seeks defeat which is not as often the case.
Basically I mention trans women a lot more because I am a woman and I am more affected by trans women. It's not smart nor stupid, it's just what I felt like writing about more. As you know I am a music artist and not a professional journalist or politician. This Substack is about my personal experiences. You said “It is dumb because you ignore the other part, the masculinity that can be done and it is done by female human beings.” Please, if you're interested, elaborate because I didn't understand this sentence.
Also, if you’re interested, please elaborate on your comment “You see femininity as a weak and dangerous thing that will end up in distopy to the world, and that is kinda misogynistic, don't you think?” I don’t see where I said femininity is a weakness and I don’t understand the rest of the sentence.
Finally, you brought up Madonna’s lyrics: “Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short, wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy. But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, 'cause you think that being a girl is degrading” and said it reminds you of what I said about Dylan Mulvaney. I don’t know how this is relevant to anything I’ve ever written or said. Do you truly believe Dylan Mulvaney simply wants to wear a dress and heels and just be accepted? Or do you think there is something darker beneath it all. I am allowing you a space to share your thoughts and opinions. I'd like you to convince me what is so empowering about a figure like Dylan Mulvaney?
Yes, I can write all the Substack posts I want thankfully. Unfortunately, I will continue to not be platformed and not be a part of the Canadian music industry because my views are in alignment with common sense and sticking up for women. It doesn't actually protect the LGBTQ+ community because this may be shocking to you, but a majority of my fans are part of the LGBTQ+ community and everyday they ask me to perform at pride and I can’t because I get declined. What pride used to mean many years ago is very different today. We are entering dangerous propaganda territory. A lot of people in the LGBTQ+ community want women to be heard, want to protect women, want to be treated equally and fairly, and don’t approve of under age kids and teens transitioning, being harmed and the stereotypes and exploitation of the gay and lesbian people. This is a topic I am not interested in diving further into but these people are being ignored. Some of my fans who are gay call me the new gay icon and wish I had more exposure.
I don’t know who you are if you are not a bot, but I wouldn’t think you’re a degenerate or weak just because you are a more feminine male. I wouldn’t consider you dangerous unless you are deliberately harming people.